In today’s post I’d like to address 8 little style mistakes that age our outfits and therefore, indirectly, us too.
These are important topics and on which I receive so many questions. Many of us, in fact, ask ourselves what we can wear after a certain age, of what is “appropriate” and what should be set aside forever.
In the end, I’m convinced, it should always be the classic mirror test that triumphs. In short, before deciding how to dress, we should examine ourselves with a critical, but also open and benevolent eye in front of the mirror and then decide case by case.
Gone are the days of absurd and sterile rules that others – often women, moreover – wanted to impose on women after a certain age.
Let’s regain our freedom to decide independently, with intelligence and good taste, what suits us best and enhances us.
But let’s take a look at the 8 most common style mistakes that we women make and that risk making us look older!
1 – STOP EVOLVING
When we start “sitting” on our beliefs about what we think looks best on us and enhances us, we stop evolving and transforming our style over time, adapting it to our physical changes. But also to our tastes, values and lifestyle.
Style should be something alive, vital, changing with us. For this reason, we never stop analyzing ourselves, playing and experimenting with fashion, to understand from time to time what really does us justice.
2 – GIVING TOO MUCH CREDIT TO THE JUDGMENTS OF OTHERS
There are people who love to dispense unsolicited and misplaced advice. Surely you too have received style advice. Perhaps from people who really believe they are fashion experts, even if we, seeing them, don’t think so at all!
If the person who offers them to us doesn’t correspond to our idea of an elegant, classy and tasteful person – and maybe has a style very far from ours – we should avoid listening to them.
This kind of “friendly suggestion” often risks misleading us, pushing us to experiment in the wrong way and to change our style. In absolutely the wrong direction!
Therefore, we only ask for and accept advice from people who we think are really tasteful, modern and elegant, and who know us inside out. This is the only way they will be really helpful in giving us a fabulous and young style!
3 – BUY AND KEEP DOZENS OF VERSIONS OF THE SAME THING
Each of us has garments and accessories that we particularly love and that certainly enhance us.
Precisely for this reason, we often risk accumulating in our wardrobe too many “clones” of the same thing. Many identical skinny jeans, for example, or many white blouses or many black dresses.
Mind you, having “uniforms”, basic outfits to replicate often changing from time to time colors, fabrics etc., is not a mistake. On the contrary, it can help us simplify life a lot.
It becomes a mistake, however, when this trend becomes excessive and brings monotony and boredom to our looks.
The antidote: let’s strive to buy some garments or accessories really different and special, capable of giving a different touch to even the simplest of our “uniforms”.
Sometimes, in short, it is worth saving on our basics and “invest” more in garments and accessories a little different from the usual.
4 – STICKING TO THE BRANDS THAT WERE IN FASHION DECADES AGO
It happened to me too: the 90’s were years of great interest for fashion, in which I spent a lot of money to get dressed and I was very passionate about fashions and brands that were in use in those years.
Sometimes – it happened to me, for example, with the classic Fay coats – we run the risk of becoming overly attached to the brands and models typical of our “roaring years” when it comes to fashion (which for many women coincide with their 20s and 30s).
Therefore, we cultivate our curiosity and interest in the latest and most innovative brands, patterns and styles.
If we still like a lot of clothes from 20 years ago, we don’t have to put them aside completely: in fact, we can just remix them using newer things, creating truly unique outfits!
5 – DRESSING TOO MUCH ACCORDING TO WHAT IS “AGE APPROPRIATE”
Surely you’ve seen those articles in magazines or those TV shows in which we are prescribed strict and absolutist rules and even the clothes and accessories to be worn strictly at 30, 40, 50 and 60+ years.
Sometimes, these “teachers” of bon ton literally infuriate me: it seems that they want to prohibit any fashionable fun to women from 40 years old onwards.
I also find that prescribing and imposing sterile rules has absolutely nothing to do with good taste and elegance, on the contrary: in fact, it eliminates any respect for the individuality, physical and taste, of every woman!
So, let’s analyze ourselves critically, let’s do lots of tests in front of the mirror. Let’s ask for advice if we wish, but then let’s remember that each of us is unique and has every right to decide for herself!
That’s why, even my new course, Refine Your Style, always puts emphasis on a woman’s individual characteristics.
6 – CONTINUE TO WEAR SINGLE GARMENTS OR ACCESSORIES THAT WERE FASHIONABLE OR LOOKED GOOD ON US WHEN WE WERE 20
This can be either “dated” fashions, but mostly garments that valued and looked good on us when we were girls, but now have a different effect. (Unfortunately, it happens even if we are all in all slim and fit).
I totally understand that it’s hard sometimes to ditch the miniskirt if for years and years we were used to getting compliments wearing it. Or having to opt for the slightly less fitted sheath dress because our curves have softened slightly (while still making us feminine and charming!).
The solution: instead of giving up altogether, let’s try to find a slightly more moderate, modern version of the garments we loved so much.
Often it’s really a matter of a few inches or other marginal changes and we can adopt an ever-feminine, yet perfectly appropriate version of our once much-loved outfits.
7 – DRESSING IN A BORING WAY, COMPLETELY AVOIDING NEW TRENDS
Many women are convinced that fashions and new trends are only for the very young.
Personally, I don’t entirely agree. While I would never, absolutely, promote the forced hunt for the latest trend, I do think that making a few small changes each season, renewing our style a little bit by incorporating some new trends can really help make our look look younger, fresher and more modern.
So, let’s take a look around! Each new season offers so many new trends, both for clothing and accessories, to renew our style.
Let’s choose a bit on instinct, fishing for what attracts us the most and looks good with the rest of our wardrobe.
An example? Sneakers. Every time I see a beautiful forty or fifty years old woman on the street who combines a pair of trendy sneakers with more classic clothes, I find her instantly young and stylish.
8 – PAYING TOO MUCH IMPORTANCE TO COMFORT
This mistake, in recent months, we have probably made a bit ‘all – and it is right so.
But giving too much weight to being comfortable, completely penalizing our style, risks making us look older and, moreover, sloppy.
In reality, there are many outfits that allow us to be just as comfortable as in leggings and sweatshirt without making us look like sacks of potatoes and adding 10 years to our outfits. Jeans with a good percentage of Elasthane, for example, airy and soft blouses, but also feminine; dresses that fit well to the lines of our body without squeezing and that we can wear all day long comfortably.
Even underwear has its importance. I, for example, said goodbye forever to bras with underwire, which I replaced with delicious models just as feminine and functional, but infinitely more comfortable!
In short, dressing well and looking feminine and chic is also good for the spirit, attracts compliments and gives self-confidence. All things we can achieve with comfortable but well-groomed looks.